Vision for Your Life

Vision for Your Life

by | Jun 6, 2018 | Off Topic

Vision for Your Life

I meet with many people who are considering getting divorced. Some have a vision for what their life will look like after they end their marriage. Some have no idea.

The people who have a positive vision and are ready to take action are most likely to achieve happiness down the road.

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How many times have you heard someone complain about being unhappy with their lives? Do they talk about this beautiful vision of how their life could be?

And do they sit there, never taking action, just whining, ranting, crying about what is, rather than changing it to what could be?

To really have a vision, it’s imperative to get up off the couch and take steps to make your dreams come true.

A girlfriend of mine wanted to move from a big city, change her job, and live in a college town. She took action to make it happen. As scared as she was, facing such a huge life change, she moved across the country for a different job, after living in a city for three decades.

She’s so happy in her new life! Yes, it was scary at times, and there were moments when she worried she was making the wrong decision. But she took action rather than just talking about it, and she hasn’t looked back.

Change is scary for everyone. Sometimes we need to scare ourselves into making life better.

Life after divorce can look any way you want it to. It’s up to you.

It doesn’t have to be empty, lonely, lacking love. If you worry that you can’t change your life because you don’t have enough money, or you’re afraid you’ll be lonely at the end, change the vision.

See yourself happy, with friends, finding new love. See yourself filling your time by going to the gym, trying a new activity you’ve always yearned to learn.

Once you change your vision of yourself into something positive, you can actually make it happen. It’s all in your hands.

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Choosing Happiness

Choosing Happiness

by | Aug 20, 2014 | Off Topic

Choosing Happiness

Do you realize happiness is a choice?

Can you think of a person, or a lot of people, who indulge in misery, maintain their downcast eyes and unpleasant grin no matter what comes their way?

We all have choices. Recently, I listened to a radio showcalled Simply Happy (find it here) about happiness vs. success. Do we define happiness and success differently or are they one and the same?

Do you take a job that offers you a lot of money, or a job where the work touches your heart and fuels your passion so it doesn’t even feel like work?

On the radio show, the host was talking about happy and unhappy cities. A lot of the unhappy cities were big bustling metropolises like New York, where the expenses and the goals and the lifestyle is fast-fast-fast and money-money-money. No surprise it’s an “unhappy place.”

I’m going to argue that happiness leads to success – if you’re happy, you will be successful, no matter what you do.

California is a happy place for the most part. People focus on the positive there. They don’t talk about potential earthquakes or the very real possibility of the fault lines eventually breaking the entire state apart from the mainland and making Arizona ocean-front property.

They talk about the sunshine. They don’t talk about smog. They talk about being laid-back and opportunity and diversity. They flock to juice bars and yoga classes and mountain hikes and they surf year-round.

You might have to drive through a lot of traffic to get there but once you’re there, you’re looking at ocean and sunshine and wherever you’ve just come from is a faint memory.

People who come to see me about a divorce have usually driven through a lot of their own personal traffic and are making the decision to choose happiness!

Do something to make yourself happy today! Make decisions that will up your happiness factor.

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