Start a Divorce Case with the End in Mind
Usually, the divorcing parties want to be collegial and, if they are parents, work together once their marriage is legally over.
With these goals, you make decisions to get there. Often, you don’t want acrimonious opposition or endless arguments because the working-together part won’t happen easily.
It helps that in a Collaborative Divorce, you’re not just supported by a divorce lawyer – you also have the benefit of a financial planner, a divorce coach, and/or a child specialist who come together as your team to help reach your desired outcome.
Whether or not you choose a Collaborative path to divorce, you can begin with the outcome in mind.
If you love the house and want to remain in it, consider what the other party might want in exchange for giving you the house.
If you like to vacation Up North every summer for a month, be prepared to give your ex-spouse a month of vacation with the children, too.
Divorcing with the end in mind keeps you on track to negotiate with intellect rather than letting emotions drive the process.
It’s easy to let hurt, anger, resentment and long-held feelings of dissatisfaction cloud judgment – but doing so does not usually lead to a positive next phase of life.
Think big picture.
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