Making a Difference
In my area of family law, making a difference really comes in helping people go through their divorce and feel good about themselves, with whatever life throws at them along the way.
Divorce is not an easy process, and it is painful. My job, then, is to help my clients feel good about themselves as they go through it and when they’re done, feel confident about their place in the world and their ability to start fresh.
When I think about recent clients who’ve been through very difficult divorces, I am happy to say they’re actually happy at the end – or should I say with their new beginning. Content. Even though they went through sadness and pain, they can share something where they feel good.
So my goal is not just to help my clients achieve divorce with the terms that are most livable for them. It is also to help them get to a place where they can feel good about their decision, who they are and where they’re headed in their new approach to life.
It’s not that the process is good or that what they’re doing is something they’re happy about, but they should feel good when the process concludes.
In any business, the goal shouldn’t be a set outcome. It should be an outcome where a client is content about the way they’ve worked through it and emerged in a place that’s right for them.
In divorce, it is almost impossible to see the light at the end of the tunnel when you’re going through it. Nonetheless, the light shines and beckons to you and when you get closer, you can absolutely grasp it.
Fifty percent of people who get married in this country end up divorced. This impacts husbands and wives, men and women, children, generations. We have generations of healing families to contend with.
Wouldn’t it be in everyone’s best interest if our goal became one of contentedness, acceptance and happiness rather than number of days, dollars and demands?