Is There A Better Way?
A few months ago, I was sitting in court listening, watching. I was waiting for my case to be heard by the judge, on a motion to terminate spousal support. Ultimately, after being heard, we were given 60 days for discovery and scheduled for an evidentiary hearing this summer.
As I waited in the judge’s office to schedule our hearing, I watched another case on the courtroom video. There was a father, a mother, five attorneys and a therapist, all gathered to determine whether the mother violated the parenting time order yet again.
They couldn’t answer the question, so they scheduled another court date, giving the parties time to further develop their respective cases.
Five attorneys and a judge with a full, active docket. Trying to find one date that will work for everyone was, clearly, not an easy feat.
Suddenly, someone in the office called out, “So what I am learning about our system is, hire a lot of attorneys and then your case will never be heard by the judge.”
Isn’t there a better way?
Even thinking about my case to terminate spousal support that day – neither party has earned income anymore. Both are living on social security. The husband has depleted his retirement savings paying support and providing the meager means he needs to survive.
The wife in the case changed her living style and reduced her expenses. And yet, both were about to spend thousands of dollars for legal fees to determine if he can cease paying spousal support.
Spending money to win, or to lose, to increase or to decrease.
Is there a better way?
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