I’m Not Always (This) Sweet
It’s so funny – when another attorney or friend says to me that they expect me to hold back and be a moderate because of this “mediative” tone I set for my practice. So when I get aggressive or assertive, they’re taken aback.
The thing is being mediative and being assertive are not mutually exclusive. If I need to be aggressive, I will be aggressive. I’ve heard your website is so soft, but your response was so strong – and I answer that discrepancy with a nod to the idea that perception and necessity are not always the same.
I can be tough when I need to be.
I’m not the roll-over-and-play-dead kind of lawyer. I’m not reticent. I will stand up when I need to. I just try to let dignity and integrity lead the charge and win whenever possible.
Being “mediative” and having as your goal to use court as a last resort does not mean that you don’t advocate for your client.
It doesn’t mean that you don’t take a position, a strong position.
I love when someone calls me a bulldog. I can be tough for my clients if I have to be.
When I see nitpicky details coming up in a case, I try to take the mediation route, an important private process that maintains dignity. There are always options.
I don’t hold back just because I have a mediative philosophy. It’s always the greatest compliment when a client’s ex refers me to friends.
Being “mediative” does not mean being walked on or being soft. It means being dignified and having integrity. It means always advocating zealously for my client.
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