Sees the glass as half-empty, the negative in every situation?
Or are you the person who bristles when a friend or partner complains? The person who simply cannot understand why they must always give voice to what is wrong or unpleasant or below their satisfaction?
Complaining is something we do to give voice to discomfort. But in life, we must be willing to bear the discomfort that comes with choices we make.
Nonetheless, what do we accomplish when we complain?
Actually, we prolong the pain. Giving voice to an emotion or experience makes it more real. The more we complain, the deeper we step into the mud of unpleasantness.
Kill the complaining, and we open the possibility for purpose and inspiration and happiness.
We all have a choice – to use complaining in a positive way. The purpose should not be to show you are not happy with the way things are.
When you hear yourself complaining, try hard to think about what can you do for yourself and the situation. Ask yourself what you have control over.
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