Peacemaker Signature: Detail-Oriented
This blog on being detail-oriented is part of a series of blogs about my peacemaker signature, which is how you want to practice law, how you articulate your professional identity. In short, it’s your personal brand, style, and approach to the practice of law. I’ve published early blogs on other aspects of my signature here and here.
What does it mean to have a detail-oriented attorney? It means I am going to be looking for, finding and explaining all the details that over the years, you might not have needed to pay attention to.
Some other attorneys may not like that I dig deep for information, but I’m ok with that. I have to do what is best for my client. It’s important to gather so much information because we are using a process that doesn’t have the court behind us.
The Collaborative approach to divorce does not include formal discovery, where somebody testifies under oath that this is everything that exists to be discovered.
Anyone going through a divorce is likely to be highly emotional, no matter how friendly they want to be. Each person wants to do what’s best for themselves, of course. And in the end, even in a collaborative case, we as professionals are supposed to try to achieve what’s best for the family.
The Collaborative process, I believe, is more humane, more respectful, than a typical litigative divorce case, but ulterior motives still slip into any divorce proceeding. I owe it to my client, and to myself, to make sure I have all the information.
It may take longer than we want it to, but we must believe that happiness and a better life wait on the other side of emotion. Let’s just take the steps, and the time, to travel the path before us, trusting that it will lead to a beautiful new destination.
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One reason I like Collaborative Divorce so much is that we begin the divorce case with an ideal outcome in mind. Usually, the divorcing parties want to be collegial and, if they are parents, work together once their marriage is legally over.
This blog first appeared on the website for the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals. Read the original blog here. In the era of COVID-19, everyone is using virtual meeting software to conduct business.